Complaining is the act of expressing feelings of annoyance, pain, dissatisfaction, or resentment over a situation, condition, event or judgment.
Complaining has spurred trouble in society; even families are affected when members express displeasure about petty things. There are even instances when we complain to no one else but ourselves.
Complaining can be healthy when there's a valid reason to do so, most especially when there is unfairness or injustice involved. But most of our complaining stems from our self-centeredness. We often resort to blaming others when things don't happen our way. We should find a way to stop it because it makes us energy vampires that suck the vitality and strength of other people.
Here are four ways that can help you to stop complaining:
1. Accept the way you are
One of the first things you have to do to stop complaining is to accept the way you are. If you can accept yourself, it is only then that you can accept other people and their imperfections. One of the easiest things to do is to find fault in others and complain about it. It is not good because complaining, blaming and criticizing are signs of negativity that most idiots do in their effort to look wiser.
2. Accept your responsibilities
People who are afraid to face accept and face their responsibilities often resort to complaining. When we refuse to take responsibilities, it's always easy for us to complain or make excuses. This is an ability that we often learn as children and subconsciously refine it as we grow older.
Accepting the responsibility for what we are supposed to do for ourselves make us in charge of our own lives. If we keep on complaining about these, we will never get anywhere and our complaints and blames might turn to regrets.
3. Understand that your ego is the architect of complains
Your ego lives in your head. It always stays in your comfort zone. If your nurture and nourish it, it will grow and make your head swell and you will not be able to control it. Your ego makes you react to just about anything that it doesn't like. It criticizes, blames, complains and makes excuses just to be able to resist anything that tends to touch it.
As a mature person, you should be able to understand that your ego is the author of your complaints and negative reactions. You should tame your ego or drop it once and for all in order to see things from a broader perspective.
If you have compassion, you will be able to understand why people act the way they do. It helps you to learn to accept others.
Learning to put yourself in the right place will also help you to accept yourself and your responsibilities in life. This can help you to see that sometimes, there's no need to complain.
Knowing yourself and your responsibilities will make you more mature. It helps to make you drop your ego and be more flexible with the world around you.